RIP my son Sam

[Lelee]

Dear all

I have been the advocate for the Alliance since October 2006. I haven't been around for a while because I took a six month sabbatical at the end of March 2010 to take my son Sam to Australia to see his family in the hope he would heal and have a better life there.

We returned early to the UK as things didn't work out and sadly Sam passed away on 5th October. It was a combination of peneumonia and accidental heroin overdose due to his compromised respiratory system. He'd suffered for a long time with a dual diagnosis and physical health problems after going off a cliff in August 2007 sustaining serious injuries.

It was all very sudden and unexpected so hence my silence and withdrawal from the Alliance community for a while. My life revolved around my son so it's been a very difficult time. I have been reading the forum but have felt unable to write this until now.

Take care of yourselves all of you.

Linda   

[simon]

Linda, sorry to hear such sad news an awful waste of a life. I wish you well and the strength to cope
Much love.

[froude]

Lelee,my heart goes out to you & family and my prayer's,my partner and i lost a son in 2005,so we kind of know what your going through,you will have the strength to get through this and in time you will heal but never forget,thinking of you and may Sam sleep with the Angels
                                  All the best,thinking of you & Froude &Family.

[Lelee]

Thank you Simon and Froude for your thoughts and prayers. Sorry you lost a son in 2005 Froude. No parent should know this kind of grief but it happens. 

Take care

Linda

   

[OP8S]

I can only imagine what it must be like to lose one of your children LeeLee  mine are my world as I'm sure Sam was yours, you have my deepest sympathies in this sad time. Take care.

[sapphire]

Oh Lelee, I am so sorry for your loss, words just don't seem enough at times like this.

[Lelee]

Thanks guys.

Linda

[simon]

Keep busy is the only advice I can offer, you'll get good days and bad and then feel guilty for having good days.

[angiesims AKA true grit :)]

So sorry for your loss Linda. My sincerest condolences x

[Lelee]

Thanks Simon and Angie. I have bad days and then worse days. I am keeping busy as you can see for the moment.

Linda 

[derek d j]

Can never think of anything to say on such occasions. I can't see it hitting you other than hard and hope the grief doesn't overwhelm you. Take it slow, may it pass, good thoughts to you and other cliches, x.

[Lelee]

Thanks for your thoughts Derek. It is overwhelming at times. I suppose something that does help me is that I believe in an afterlife but that's for another forum altogether. It did shake my beliefs to my very core when it happened though.
I haven't even had the inquest yet so that's looming like a large shadow. I'm just trying to keep occupied and am on and off the forum most days. Sometimes I can contribute and sometimes I can't.
Linda       

[froude]

Just go at your pace,It had the opposite to me,I found myself drawn/pulled to the little chappel in the hospital,and in truth i was'nt a believer,now i believe in afterlife,my family's prayer's are with you ,all the best Froude

[Lelee]

http://www.nderf.org/

Thanks Froude. You might be interested in the above link then re the afterlife. It's helped me. I dip into it now and again and read people's accounts of their experiences.

Take care, Linda

[usandthem]

I am so sorry Linda. I must introduce myself as I had joined this site when you were away. I look at your posts and they are all so very helpful. I am so sorry to to hear your son passed away. I too lost a sister to drink and drugs, she was 31, the downfall started when she had a car crash and scarred her face badly. She used to be really pretty. But then she started stopping in and taking drugs and drink. She had wasted away on a mix of vodka shotties, zoppiclone, and a teenth of heroin daily. She was a dealer so didn't get much sympathy from the estate when she passed. Drug use is all over my estate and most people are dead against it. Most users just keep themselves to themselves and only a small amount go out shoplifting and robbing for their fixes.


All the best John