Hello!

[maggiem]

Been out of the loop for a while and I just want to say that the site is getting better and better, love the book section.
Reading a good book can be a great escape but I always have trouble keeping awake past three or four pages when reading in bed!!
Had good holiday in Lake Garda although it rained most of the time(don't get wet sitting in a bar though). Took the in-laws......it was like taking the kids but a giggle.   And when we got home the house was in one piece, clean and tidy which was daughters doing!!
She is doing ok..... well was until last thursday,  had not touched anything for nearly 4 weeks and her dose of 60ml appeared to be holding her but for some reason she smoked some gear after having a few to drink and she has been suffering since!!!!   She is so annoyed with herself and I am hoping its a one off.  She has been getting dizzy spells and bad headaches and is so tired!  She even collapsed into her dinner(an amusing image now) but not at the time.  On a good note she has put weight and her skin is begining to clear up.
Things are looking up?!!!
Love to all, Maggie

[Lelee]

Hi Maggie, welcome back. Yes the forum has been revamped, great isn't it.

Glad you had a fun break and all was okay when you returned. Shows your daughter can be responsible.

As for her lapsing, well alcohol could well be one of her triggers. It is with many people I know, not least of all because it reduces inhibitions and in turn will power and resolve. Also I know of quite a few people who are abstinent from heroin but have replaced it with alcohol. Personally I like a drink but since I've given up smoking, (nearly nine months now) I can't drink much over a couple of glasses of wine otherwise I'm practically mugging people for cigarettes and I'm normally quite well behaved!   

Does your daughter need a health check Maggie? it's not normal for her to be so tired and fall to sleep in dinner. My son can fall to sleep while eating dinner with food in his mouth but that's when he's under the influence of one or more substances. iI makes me mad and sad to see him in that state.   

Anyway, good to hear from you again Maggie.
Take care
Linda

[judy_q]

Hi,
I'm new to this forum and just want to say Hi. Let me tell you a little about me.

dont know if I belong in this part of the forum. I use, meth n still sometimes use on top, and I am a carer for my partner who is disabled and is also on a script. I appreciate how hard and isolating it can be when caring for someone and I have immense admiration for those who stand by their loved ones, especially if there is a drug problem to deal with.

I look forward to getting to know you all...

[Lelee]

Hi Judy, good to see you posting on carer's corner. Yes it can be isolating being a carer, particularly I suppose if you have to give up your job and social life to care for somebody.

I find what isolates carers of people with drug problems is the fear of, and actual, lack of understanding and judegmental attitudes from other family members, friends, and general public. I've heard it called 'stigma by association.' It's taught me an awful lot about people and society as a whole. We're a pretty messed up society when the vulnerable are vilified and punished for needing help.

So how's your husband Judy? Do you have children?

There's a programme on channel 4 at 9pm this evening you might be inetersted in, it's called 'heroin, mum and me' or 'mum heroin and me'

Look forward to hearing more from you

Linda

     

[judy_q]

Hi Linda,

I dont have any children, although my partner would love us too. I feel that we need to be more stable before thinking about a family. My partner and I discovered the forum at the same time and it is great because he is very isolated. He does not leave the house and that is sad because he has so much to give. When we meet we were both really chaotic users but in the last four years I've been studying and also doing voluntary work and it has changed my life, so I would love for him to have the same experiences. So far he has got some really positive respones and great advice from the forum and I think this has come at just the right time as he is starting to really want to make changes.

I noticed the prograamme you mentioned and look forward to watching it. The subject of my disertation is substance misuse and effect of, within the family so it really interests me. I'm studying social work and throughout the entire 3 year course we have had absolutely NO training around substance misuse which I find incrediable!

I should really go and do some work now...god it is so easy to put it off...and off...and so on!!! Best wishes, judy_q